The abyss of grief
"The Wonder is not whether we will be together,
Me with those I am loving,
on some other side.
The Wonder is that we have met and been together, loving here
in this half made world,
where love is yet to take hold"
Adi Da
The horror of grief...and the horror sometimes for those who are transitioning is something most of us do not like to contemplate...
Grief comes to us all. We all lose the people and the things we love.
There is a dreadful certainty about the inevitability of death.
However there is a knowing for many on a spiritual path or way or life that there is no death,and sacred scriptures all teach us this.Yet not many of us believe.
Mystics and non dual practices have reported for thousands of years that the 'soul' goes on with whatever the summation of awareness is of the person transitioning.
As a Sufi healer I have found myself all my life helping those who are struggling through their transition lost in voids or empty spaces after leaving the body.
None of us know why or how we come to serve others, but for me this is a part of my work which I never sought but which simply arises when I am least expecting it! After twenty years I now simply trust the process.
I hope for those having just lost someone and feeling fearful that it is the end, that we are just snuffed out, or even for those with religious beliefs of right and wrong, who may be fearful for someones soul who did not live a totally rightened life, that this article helps assure, from a mystical level of knowing.
Those left behind often are the ones suffering more..
The difficulty of death seems actually for those left behind- the painful abyss of grief, where we are neither better nor worse than anyone else.
Death strips away everything, all power, status, money things we identify with mean nothing.
That is why so many spiritual ways advise us to 'die whilst alive' - in otherwords loose the ego and instead live a life of sevice to humanity and God as a whole .
Because when we die (transition) we are left only with the summation of what our soul is, what our energy is about.
The saying "you are what what you meditate on" summarises this.
When we loose someone we feel the vulnerability of our own inability to do anything, and the depth of the loss. Sadly so many of us identify with the body and mind that when that disappears we think the person has gone, because we are not able to locate the essence of them.
We should let go people go, to continue the next phase of their journey to light. By remaining in grief we can bind someone, and our lives can be put on hold.
We do need to know and acknowledge that grieving takes many forms, and might not follow prescribed patterns. And we also need to know that pushing away the emotional reality of grief is not helpful.
The shock and actuality that the person has 'died' can literally feel like a ripping out in ones heart, an unbearable grief that because it is so painful, many go into denial and themselves enter a dead zone no longer living.
